Descriptive Reflection - Strengths and challenges in communicating
Communication is probably the most important tool in managing inter-personal relationships, My strength in communication is empathy. I am always able to relate to others when I hear from others. By putting myself in other peoples' shoes, I am able to feel what they feel and share other people's problems, giving others critical opinions in a way that will not hurt them. With this strength, I am able to get along well with a lot of people and gain trust from others very fast.
However, I have my own troubles. Firstly, as a non-native English speaker, I am not very confident to communicate in English and I always stumble myself when I speak publicly, even though I had tried my best. However, I can perform well on a stage with thousands of audiences but I can hardly speak fluently and naturally in front of a 20 students class. However, I am able to present well with my native language, so this problem is because I am unfamiliar with English, if I continue to practice English, I should be able to solve this problem.
Secondly, during Teng Teng's second lesson, I gained a lot of new knowledge and the sentence "Selection affects us" shocked me, as I realised that I am also always affected by my own perception and not being objective. This is very bad because it prevents me from being fair to all. With a coloured-glass, I might appear mean sometimes. For example, I had a terrible conflict with one of my classmate before (whom cannot be named), and since then my opinion of him have always been negative and refuse to talk to him. Whenever he did badly I will blame this with his internal attribution and when he did well, I will think it as an external attribution.
As I am enrolled in COM150 course, I look forward to more chances of practicing effective communication skills to gain more confidence when I am communicating with others in English. I also like to learn more of my weakness by the end of COM150, I hope that I will not just getting a pass in this course but also digging out more of my weaknesses and strength, so I will perform better in my future workplace.
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ReplyDeleteSup. I think the reason you are able to stand in front of many people and give a presentation because like what you mention, you are able to put yourself in other’s shoes, and in this case the audience. This means that you are able to understand what the audiences are expecting which gives you the confident you need to communicate with them. This is actually very useful skills which people who have difficulty in talking to the big audience does not have. I find that when people are afraid to say wrong things and as a result lose confident in giving a presentation or a speech.
ReplyDeleteAs for your language, I recommend to read more English books or watch more English movies that interest you so that you will get used to saying them. I myself are also still trying to improve my English by trying to speak it more often. No worry, I believe that in time your English will improve to the point that you will be able to speak very well and more natural.
Regards,
Chee Hwa ✌
Hi Zhi Hua, it is good to know that your strength in communication is empathy. Many people lack this skill as they would not think of how other will feels with their actions and words. It is good that you can relate to how other’s feels and give them important suggestion to their problem.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to your lack of confidence when speaking in English as my English is my weakest subject since young. However, due to how Singapore society works, I am force to speak in English during my polytechnic and my part-time. Therefore, after sometime, I am use to speaking in English. Hence, for you to improve your confidence with your English, you can try to speak more in English with your friend. Over time, you might find your confidence with your English ability will increase and thus improve your presentation skills in English. I hope that this can help you.
Jiayou
Wan Jie